How to Date a Feminist


How to Date a Feminist premiered at the Arcola Theatre in 2016, directed by Matthew Lloyd and starring Tom Berish and Sarah Daykin. Productions are coming up in Poland, the Czech Republic and Mexico.

You can buy the play text from Nick Hern Books, or as an e-book from Amazon.

"★★★★ Witty, slyly provocative and quite simply downright lovely"—Evening Standard


★★★★ Genuine wit...a time-shifting narrative that keeps the audience on its toes"—Jewish Chronicle

★★★★ Spirited writing...sharp perception of the absurdities of the day"—Libby Purves


★★★★ If only more writers out there were like Samantha Ellis we wouldn't have to worry about rom coms dying out. Quirky, brave, truthful and clever, How to Date a Feminist is a must see"—London Box Office

★★★★ Ellis zigzags back and forth with panache and Matthew Lloyd directs the dynamic duo of Sarah Daykin and Tom Berish with matching brio"—Jewish Renaissance


"★★★ You can't help but cheer on Ellis's blend of the caustic and the corny"—The Times

"★★★ Fizzy and witty and smart, stuffed full of crackling lines"—The Stage

"A whip-smart romp...wonderfully funny"—Exeunt

"Feelgood...entertaining look at gender stereotypes"—Aleks Sierz

"Samantha Ellis's ingenious rom com fizzes with rib-tickling moments and razor-sharp dialogue"—Red

"Samantha Ellis’ sharply crafted script delivers an altogether less conventional take on the rom-com"—Hackney Citizen

"The acting is outstanding"—TLS

"Laugh out loud funny"—What's on Stage

"Marries an intelligent script, versatile actors and clever direction/staging to create a hilarious romantic comedy with a twist"—A Younger Theatre

"Full of love and laughs"—The Women's Room

"An anti-rom com"—Daniel Perks

"A must-see"—Your Coffee Break

"A humorous look at the hell of modern dating"—Cent Magazine

And some of the lovely things audiences have been saying about it.


It's directed by Matthew Lloyd, designed by Carla Goodman and stars Tom Berish and Sarah Daykin.

Kate likes her men tall, dark and smouldering. She has a fatal attraction to cads, bounders and bad men. Then she meets Steve...
Steve is a feminist.
Can she overcome her love of lipsticks, cupcakes and Heathcliff? Can he forgo the ethical confetti and learn to be a little bit more ravishing in bed? Can they reinvent romance for the 21st century?


Here's me talking about it on BBC Woman's Hour.

Here's me talking about it on BBC Radio London (about 10 minutes in).


And an interview with John Nathan at the Jewish Chronicle.


A podcast I did with Judi Herman at Jewish Renaissance.


Here's a piece I wrote about writing a play that fails the Bechdel Test, but is (I hope!) still feminist.


And another, on how to write a feminist rom com (& my love of screwballs).


And one on feminist dating lessons I learned from rom coms.


And, on giving up Heathcliff.


Here's Carl Woodward interviewing me about the play.

It is about to be produced at Theatre Wybrzeze in Gdansk.